A church can be full for a funeral and for the person who has passed away, the day can be a wonderful and glorious celebration of their life.
And although thoughts of the special individual, whose passing it was, linger in the memory of those who attended, in the main the world gets on with its own life.
But for those close – a husband, a wife, a son, or a daughter – life is never the same and how the individual handles the coming days, weeks, months and even years is one of the most heart-rendering, emotion-sapping, bewildering personal crises he or she will ever face.
When my wife gracefully passed away I dived back into work and returned after a long absence to attending church on a regular basis. And while it is now three years since she closed her eyes for the last time I still talk to her every day. For me she is still around and my belief has grown so much stronger.
My eldest daughter, always the sporty one of the family, drove herself forward to excel like never before and spent hour after hour taking fitness to the extreme.
My younger daughter, the more sensitive of us all, sought solace by attending Pendleside Hospice’s counselling services, therapies and treatments.
It served her well.
Anyone of us could have fallen emotionally over the cliff but none of us did. Two of us made clear decisions to address the trauma of losing the most important person in our lives within ourselves. The third one looked for outside help.
That help wasn’t available not too long ago and who knows what mental state she might have been in today without the hospice. The hospice, I believe, has saved many lives.
And now that a specialist family centre has been opened its services will be more warm and comforting than even when my daughter discovered it as a haven three years ago.
The hospice has for a long-time not only served the needs of people with life-limiting illnesses but also served the needs of their families too.
And the new family centre, based in the lodge of the former nurses’ training school at Reedley – adjacent to the main hospice building – is now able to extend those services and make even greater emphasis on looking after the welfare of children as young as junior school age to recover from the devastating, sometimes life-changing, twist of fate that ends in the death of a parent.
From my personal experience all I can plead for you to do is support your hospice. Because then your hospice can support you… and your family.
Business Development Executive